I am about to share something that may shock you. My life is kind of chaotic. Oh wait. That’s not actually shocking, is it?
I have twins. Toddler twins. Chaos comes with the territory. I think chaos pretty much comes with toddlers no matter how many you have, but it is definitely a numbers game* when it comes to containing all the crazy. Two toddlers means two little crazies who are climbing and running and dancing all over the place (often in opposite directions), not very good at using their words yet, and prone to epic mood swings. It is enormous fun, but also extremely exhausting.
Some days are easier than others. Everyone naps at the same time, there are no injuries (see above…climbing, running, dancing…), I get to shower and drink my coffee before noon. Other days, not so much. Those days are full of skinned knees and tears, the floors begin to resemble a mine field of toys and books and Cheerios, and I end the day utterly depleted. Most days fall in the middle of those extremes, though. A little tiring, a lot of fun, but always full of crazy and chaos.
That’s what I’m getting at here. Chaos isn’t a bad thing, neither is crazy. It just is, and it’s a part of life, especially with twins. Containing all the chaos has required some recalibration in my life. New versions of normal, new and always changing expectations for myself, my home, my life. It always requires help. Repeat after me, “Chaos is ok. Chaos is normal.” Because it is. Some days it’s just better contained than others. And, hey, at least they haven’t burned the place down yet, right?
*Speaking of numbers games, I am always grateful to have a 1:1 ratio of adult to toddler in my home. Together, J and I tag-team this twin thing pretty well, I think. Toy mine field and all.
Z and R are obsessed with the Minions in Despicable Me. Their reaction is nothing short of delight, with lots of squeals and laughter, so when they brought out the Despicable Me DVD tonight, my husband decided to set up a little movie night for us. He brought out one of their mattresses and some blankets. I set the girls up with some Cheerios and we settled in to enjoy the Minions.
We laughed and played and ran around a little (let’s face it, 16 month olds don’t sit still. Ever.) . We had a blast.
I love nights like this, when the four of us can hang out and goof off together. I love that we can make memories like this together. Some of my favorite memories as a child are simple nights spend at home with my parents and brother, so I’m more than excited to create the same types of experiences for my daughters. I spend every day looking forward to more wonderfully fun times together.
I love my family
Parenting twins can be a tricky business. It comes with a unique challenges and concerns, and it can often be tough to find help and wisdom from people who have been there because, frankly, there aren’t nearly as many parents of multiples as there are parents of singletons. That’s why it’s so important for all of us twin parents to band together and pool our support and information resources. That’s also why I’m immensely proud and excited to have been given the opportunity to blog for an amazing new podcast called Twin Talks. I’ve been given the chance to join this fantastic team of twin parent bloggers to share our experiences, encourage, and support each other and all the other twin parents out there, so be sure to check it out!