Trust me on this.
I know, I know, you just found out that you’re expecting twins and your mind is reeling. Everything is different now, and there’s so much you don’t know.
Your searches most likely start out innocently enough, like mine did, just looking for information about zygosity. The thing is, once you enter that seemingly innocuous search, it will open up a can of worms. Suddenly, your computer (or phone, or tablet) screen is filled with images and descriptions of all manner of horrible, tragic, utterly terrifying potential complications.
I promise you, you don’t need to know. If for some reason you ever do need the information, I also promise you that your doctor(s) will fill you in. All that exploring Dr. Google will do for you is add to your stress (which I’m sure is already pretty high at this point).
Just step away and do your best to wrap you mind around the amazing adventure you’re embarking on.
Oh, and feel free to come here when ever you want. I promise to try not to scare you 😉
If you have twins someone will ask you this at some point. It may just be one random crazy lady, or every single person you meet (most likely the latter…). People are just dying to know if your twins are “real”.
By “real” most people mean to ask if they occurred spontaneously or by the use of medical intervention. Yep. Total strangers are going to ask you about the method with which you conceived your children. And they will expect you to actually tell them, not just stare at them in horror and disbelief.
This question can also come in several other forms:
-“Were you expecting twins?”
-“Do twins run in your family?”
-“Did you use that in vitro thing?” (Yes, some people both that blunt and that nosy).
I don’t think I’ll ever understand why people feel the need to intrude soooo far into strangers’ personal lives. When people warned me about this line of questioning while I was pregnant I didn’t believe it could be true. But then someone asked, and I was just dumbfounded.
Now I’m passing the warning on to the rest of you. People will ask (they’ll also probably ask about your babies’ NICU time, but that’s a rant for another post), so be prepared. Maybe come up with some sort of very awkward conception story to make them regret ever asking. And please, do feel free to share your favorite answers and methods of deflection, I always love a good awkward story!